The experience of others adds to our knowledge, but not to our wisdom; that is dearer bought.
Hosea Ballou
Hosea Ballou
June 3 2010:
Feminists who ceaselessly inveigh against their own oppression by men (often hardly specifying its exact nature) would ignore how they themselves have oppressed … feminine women. It oppresses a woman who could delight in domesticity to tell her that her domesticity makes her a parasitic inferior to men. It oppresses a woman who yearns to stay home with her children to tell her she is worthy only
only insofar as she achieves in the workplace. F. Carolyn Graglia
only insofar as she achieves in the workplace. F. Carolyn Graglia
June 4 2010:
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
– Mark Twain
– Mark Twain
June 5 2010:
I couldn’t choose only one today.
People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. ~Thomas Szasz, “Personal Conduct,” The Second Sin, 1973
Never mind searching for who you are. Search for the person you aspire to be. ~Robert Brault,
June 6 2010:
This is too long to be considered a quote but I had to share it anyway.
found at: http://feminafortis.com/2007/08/definition-of-submissive/
Definition of “Submissive”
Filed Under (Dominance and Submission) by theodora on 03-08-2007
Tagged Under : d/s
Well, really, there isn’t a good definition of submissive. It depends on what exactly you’re talking about, and everyone has a different concept of the word.
To some people, “submissive” is limited to the D/s world, where “submissive” automatically conjures up images of whips, chains, and tons of leather. To some, including a very submissive friend of ours, this also conjures up images of torture and past abuse. But for those who are only submissive in the sexual arena, I will use the term “sexual submissive”.
To other people, “submissive” is a bad word, meaning someone who is weak-willed and unable to think for themselves and needs to be told exactly what to do. For this personality type, I will use the word “slave”.
To others, “submissive” means a person with a figurative or literal collar around their neck, being led around like a pet. And that, for this site’s purposes, is called a “pet”.
For me, it is none of this things. To me, it’s just who I am.
In this site, I used the word “submissive” in only one way. To me, a submissive is a person who, through nature and nurture, is a Beta. In other words, to me, a submissive is someone whose mental, emotional, and physical well-being is better served following someone else’s lead.
This is an odd concept in the U.S. Americans pride themselves on their independence and individuality. Schools teach that leadership is the highest calling and reward.
However, only about 20% of the population is mentally suited to leadership. Another 20% is inherently submissive, and the rest are somewhere in between.
And this is a GOOD thing.
Not everyone is suited to being in charge. Not everyone can handle the pressure, or make the decisions, or take everything necessary into account. Not everyone feels the need to be in control.
A dominant personality, or “dominant” seeks control and influence. In the best circumstances they do this in the spirit of serving the public and private good. In the worst, they are megalomaniacs.
The world does not need more megalomaniacs. And the dominants who DO work towards a better world need help.
The people in the middle function well as help, as well as leaders when they need to be. They can function at both levels. In the D/s world this personality type (the majority of all people) is called a “switch” because they can handle both positions. For this site, I will refer to them as “the majority of people” or an equivalent term.
A submissive personality, or “submissive” does best in the helper, or service role. They don’t like making the big decisions of the world; they’d rather leave that to the dominants around them. Submissives are much better at getting things done rather than deciding what needs to get done. They are happiest when they have a set task or set of tasks to do, or orders to follow.
As Justinian once put it, dominants are like generals, and submissives are like sergeants. The general makes the decisions, the sergeant implements them. One side is tactics, the other logistics.
This is where a submissive functions best, when they know what needs to be done, but have reign to figure out how.
All of these personality types are necessary to form a cohesive society.
So now that we’ve established what a submissive is, what does a submissive look like?
Honestly, they look just like everyone else. You can find submissives in almost any occupation, be it the military, nursing, administration, religious service, or anything else you can think of. But, of course, the best example of what a submissive looks like is one you know, and that is me.
I take care of a husband and two small children.
I manage a household and everything the household needs.
I drive my kids to and from school. I volunteer and work occasionally.
I’m the woman in the grocery store, planning the dinners for the work. I’m the professional consumer, who knows every price of every item I’ve ever bought. I make 90% of the buying decisions.
I’m the person who calls the repair company when things go wrong. I’m the person who keeps track of the finances.
I am a full-time wife and mother with full autonomy.
But at the end of the day, I cede all control of the major facets of our lives to Justinian. He makes the money, makes the major money decisions, handles emergencies, and protects the household. Everything rests of his shoulders.
In other words, I am what used to be referred to as a normal housewife, a term which has been villainized by generations of Feminists who for whatever reason think of my ilk as downtrodden women.
We’re not downtrodden. We’re the happiest submissives in the world. We have our objective, and only one objective: the health and well-being of our families. We know what we have to do, and are given full reign to do it.
Just because we’re not the ones “in power” doesn’t mean we’re miserable. Quite the opposite.
Yes, there are submissive men as well, but there is no hiding the fact that the vast majority of submissives are female. It’s ingrained as a survival mechanism, and a damn good one. And honestly, not everyone needs to be amibitious and conquer the world.
Leave the conquering to the dominants. The submissives are the ones doing the just-as-important job of keeping the homefires going while they’re gone. That’s what we do best.
June 7 2010:
To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. ~e.e. cummings, 1955
June 9 2010:
“Think before you speak”
July 3 2010:
From The Fountain (Movie 2006)
Our bodies are prisons for our souls.
Our skin and blood, the iron bars of confinement.
But fear not.
All flesh decays.
Death turns all to ash.
And thus, death frees every soul.
July 26 2010:
“The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight, but has no vision.”
Helen Keller
Helen Keller
